For Men

So you're concerned that she might be pregnant.

Here's some quick advice that may be of benefit to you right now:

The Do's

1) Listen to her. The situation now involves three lives to think about.

2) Keep calm. She needs your support now! She may be carrying the baby, but you're BOTH parents; regardless of your relationship in the future, that baby needs you too.

3) Talk it over - with each other, and be prepared to talk with parents and others close to the situation. Hiding the news from people who can genuinely help you only increases the stress.

4) Make sure you have all the facts. Get all the information and seek wise counsel so you can make the best decision for both of you.

5) Express yourself openly and honestly - it's normal to have feelings of anger, frustration and fear. But make sure she knows she is not alone.

The Don'ts

1) Don't leave or bail out! The more you try to get away, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.

2) Don't pressure her. Applying pressure will only push her away, possibly into a regretful situation. You will do well to work together as a team.

3) Don't forget, you have a very active role in this situation. Listen to input and share your thoughts.

How We Can Help

The Pregnancy Care Center offers free peer counseling to men facing unexpected fatherhood.  A male peer counselor is available to listen to you, and address any concerns you may have.  Please contact the Center at 828-322-4272 for an appointment.  We are here for you!